Of all our emotions,
anger is perhaps the feeling
we most tend to mess up.
With ourselves & with others.

~ Dr. David Gruder

That’s understandable — on the surface at least. You see, most people associate anger with manipulation and violence: whether verbal, physical, sexual or spiritual.

Anger is Widely Misused

Look at all the road rage and school shootings. Think about the blow-ups and pouting you’ve seen in others and perhaps in yourself too. Consider how rampant blaming others is, and how easy it is to shame ourselves. The ways we humans have of misusing anger to be hurtful are virtually endless.

Yes, that’s right. These are misuses of anger. What if I told you that anger is actually designed to be one of your most amazing allies? And that there is a secret to turning your anger — and others people’s — into YOUR ally? In other words, what if there actually is a way to develop a relationship with anger that lets you use it in service of love instead of destruction?

My Faulty Anger Training & the Harm It Did

I know a lot about destructive relationships with anger. Personally, not merely as a psychologist. As a child, I regularly witnessed — and was on the receiving end of — my Dad’s explosive rages. That was incredibly painful and shaming, believe me. And I just as frequently heard my Mom slam kitchen cabinet doors, be snippy with me and others, and become depressed and distant when she was angry. That was equally unpleasant. Those were the only forms of anger I knew as a child and a teen. So, it shouldn’t be any wonder that by the time I was sixteen, I was literally saying to people, “I don’t do anger!”

Of course, denying my anger only drove it underground. And that forced it to leak out indirectly. In ways that always felt out of my control. The forms my anger most commonly took included:

  • Shaming myself (inner anger beat-ups)
  • Being hypercritical of others (harshly judging people and then self-righteously justifying why I did that)
  • Pouting
  • Not letting most people get close enough to me to feel at risk of getting angry at them — and then if I got angry anyway, being terrified that they’d reject me

None of this changed when I became a psychologist. None of the highly valuable books, personal development workshops, or psychotherapy, I had greatly benefitted from in other ways touched my dysfunctional relationship with anger. In fact, it wasn’t until the mid-1990s, when I was in my 40s, that I finally started moving into right relationship with anger… despite having by then become a highly regarded psychologist.

Keep reading below for the solution…

The Shift That Made All the Difference

What changed? I finally found a way to COMPLETE my unresolved anger. One that actually worked for me. I watched this method clearly work with virtually everyone else I assisted with their anger issues. And I similarly saw literally multiple hundreds of people who I’ve mentored and facilitated with anger completion & transformation successfully use this method to create deeply valuable and durable benefits for themselves.

The method is called Focused Expressive Psychotherapy (FEP). It was developed and verified over a 20+ year period at the University of Arizona. To this day FEP remains one of the most well-researched — and effective — approaches to resolving (not “managing”)anger that’s ever been devised.

I went on to become one of the only psychologists in the world to be fully certified to train other therapists in the FEP anger completion method by its principal developer, Dr. Roger Daldrup. I have facilitated well over 1000+ “Anger Completion Workouts” and have trained therapists in anger completion and transformation in North America and Europe. Today I may be the only remaining psychologist who was fully certified to train both the public and therapists in FEP.

Time to Stop Flying Under the Radar

Why haven’t you heard of FEP? Simple. The brilliant University of Arizona clinicians and researchers who developed and verified its effectiveness were academicians, not entrepreneurs. They didn’t know how to bring their stunning breakthrough to the world.

I’m now the “last man standing” and I’m not good with that. Not by a long shot. I can’t sit silent anymore and watch an absolutely brilliant anger literacy framework finish fading into oblivion. I can’t allow what’s arguably the most useful method for dealing with anger that’s ever been devised to disappear instead of become the most used method for dealing with anger.

My mission is now your gain.

I’ve not merely developed a vastly different — and far more effective — relationship with my own anger:  I’ve discovered a way to help you teach yourself to deal with your anger — and other people’s — far more effectively and usefully than you might have ever thought possible.

3 Key Things You Absolutely Must Know About Anger

Here are the 3 biggest things I now know about anger as a result of my dysfunctional anger upbringing, my failure to develop anger literacy as a young man, and the startlingly valuable successes I’ve had since then:

  1. “Anger as usual” means venting, managing or repressing. None of these tactics work. Pretending you’re not angry doesn’t make it disappear. Venting anger doesn’t complete it. Anger management doesn’t prevent it. Fearing other people’s anger puts them in charge of you.
  2. Anger comes in 4 distinctly different yet rarely recognized varieties: A) Boundaries; B) Escalation; C) Flooding; and 4) Recycling. Most people — even mental health, anger management, and self-esteem experts — don’t know how to differentiate among these four flavors of anger.
  3. Each of these 4 anger varieties requires different responses. Most people lump all of them together and this sends their ability to effectively deal with anger right down the tubes. In other words, most people deal with EACH of these varieties of anger in ways that rarely work.

The Hidden System That is Far Better Than Anger Management

You are on the verge of discovering far better ways of dealing with anger than venting, managing, avoiding, or repressing it. You are about to discover how to effectively deal with boundaries, escalation, flooding and recycling anger in the distinctly different ways that each form uniquely requires. You are about to tap into a wellspring of wisdom and tools for dealing with anger that aren’t even known by the vast majority of my fellow psychologists and other helping professionals & human potential experts… let alone everyday folks who value their self-development enough to invest in it.

As Seen in Forbes

Just how valuable is this system? Valuable enough to have been Featured in Forbes (opens new window).

This highly valuable system remains unknown to most people even though it’s arguably the most complete system available for vastly upgrading our relationship with all four forms of anger. You now have an opportunity to access the Anger Literacy & Effectiveness System™ that:

  • Self-improvers, entrepreneurs & leaders have used to improve their effectiveness at work & their relationships at home.
  • Customer service professionals have used to deal with irate customers in more centered and helpful ways that leave them less drained by the interactions.
  • Has helped work teams become more highly engaged, collaborative & productive.
  • Parents & educators have used to help children.
  • Has enabled helping professionals (therapists, counselors, & coaches) to supercharge their ability help clients deal with the full range of anger issues.

If you’re like virtually everyone who has already accessed this Full-Spectrum Anger Literacy & Effectiveness System™, I’ll bet it will knock your socks off. Watch this brief video to see if you agree:

Forget anger management. Your wait for a better way is over. Now you can instead become a master at preventing anger, utilizing it, completing it, and repairing it. Check out what’s included in my Conquering Anger Mountain™ Full Spectrum Anger Literacy & Effectiveness System now at www.DrGruder.com/angercourse (or click the button below for more details & to access it). You won’t find anything else like it… anywhere else.