1. Power Hungry Manipulation: Men who are control addicts, tyrants, and egotistical self-appointed saviors. These include abusers of power who have use negative means that have negative impact, and those who have some amount of positive impact that comes at the cost of significant collateral damage.
2. Power Rebellious Antagonism: Men who push back against Power Hungry Manipulators opposing them (instead of containing them if and as needed while pushing forward with something better).
3. Power Phobic Enabling: Men who abdicate power because they don’t want to be Power Hungry Manipulators or Power Rebellious Antagonists. Some abdicate power because they are imprisoned in a  learned helplessness. Others do this by trying to be new age sensitive guys. Yet others do this by hiding behind appearing to be spiritual when what they’re actually doing is finding a way to tolerate the unacceptable. Regardless of the form a man’s power phobia takes, it results in enabling harmful exercises of power to continue.

The truth is that power’s impact can elevate spirit, love, wellbeing, individual freedom, collaboration, and the common good… or it can undermine any or all of these. It can boost our leadership effectiveness or diminish it. It can draw people to us or repulse people from us. One of the biggest challenges of our time is for us as men to wake up to and take responsibility for the impacts we can’t not have, whether we intend these or not.

What does Masculine Power Maturity that look like? In a nutshell, it’s embodying healthy masculine power by using positive means to generate positive impact while preventing unintened negative impact (collateral damage) to the greatest extent possible.

I believe that co-creating an elevated future as a society, a country, a planet, and in your family and business, calls on us as men to fundamentally reset our relationship with power. The starting place for this reset is elevating how we express all five Core Forms of Mature Masculine Power:

1. Beingness Power: How we presence ourselves, how we embody love.
2. Doingness Power: How we take action.
3. Stability Power: How we preserve predictability, organization, and standards.
4. Change Power: How we facilitate the magic of innovation and transformation.
5. Choicemaking Power: How we utilize and coordinate beingness, doingness, stability, and change on behalf of mission in service to Source (substitute this with your word for higher love, wisdom, and power — it might be Spirit, God, Higher Self, the wisdom of the universe, and so forth)

I would go so far as to say that resetting our relationship with these five fundamental forms of power is the holy grail for massively boosting mature masculinity and mature masculine leadership. With that power reset as our foundation, we become far more capable of the other cores of healthy masculine leadership:

1. Male Leader Personal Wellbeing: Not allowing our passion about our purpose, or our strong stamina, to justify self-neglect, over-work, and over-functioning. This only leads to justifying being self-indulgent as a reward for wellbeing neglect.
2. Male Leader Love Literacy: Not knowing how to participate in and facilitate productive synergistic collaboration, especially around challenging problems or divisive issues.

Once we have reset our relationship with power, wellbeing, and love, we can uplevel our relationship with the 7 Key Habits of Healthy Masculine Leadership:

1. Purpose Power: Vision/Mission in service of love and highest good. Higher Purpose is the wellspring of masculine leadership power.
2. Paradigm Power: Sculpting your worldview and selfview instead of being a prisoner to your Inner Critic. Placing your paradigm in service to your highest purpose enables you to wield power wisely and lovingly.
3. Life Energy Power: Ensuring that you keep your cup full. This requires taking charge of your wellbeing, goals, time, and leverage choices. Doing this requires freedom from limiting beliefs, unresolved trauma, and other baggage. The more life energy you have, the greater your access to mature masculine power.
4. Multi-Dimensional Perspectives Power: Being a multi-dimensional thinker means being able to view situations from many different points of view. This requires deep teachability and teachability requires discernment (also known as critical thinking): neither swallowing input indiscriminately nor being impervious to influence. As a mature leader we synergize wisdom embedded in multiple perspectives, especially ones that challenge our own. This requires Tensions Competence: the ability to creatively consider polarities (either/or thinking) and seeming contradictions in wisdom-producing ways. Spotting and utilizing the grains, nuggets or boulders of wisdom in multiple perspectives is our insurance policy as men against ideological blindness. Mining that wisdom and synergizing it with our own is a key to generating solutions that have high positive impact with no accompanying unintended negative impact. Multi-dimensional thinking prevents misusing masculine power.
5. Decisions Power: Knowing when to be the decider and when to seek consensus. A key to this is being able to accurately predict unintended consequences of potential decisions. It requires high levels of Boundaries Intelligence: being able to recognize and honor your limits in ways that enable you to love and collaborate with others without resentment and with integrity. Conveying your decisions in ways that promote support requires sophisticated communication skills. The quality of your decisions, and the way you arrive at them, is a reflection of mature masculinity.
6. Collaboration Power: Most of us men are trained in coercion and compromise but few of us are trained in the mechanics of effective collaboration (even when we believe in the value of collaboration!). Collaboration power is our ability as a leader to facilitate groups in synergizing diverse intentions and often polarized perspectives so integrative root cause solutions emerge. When doing selling, this means educating so someone can make wise decisions (informed consent), not manipulating them into consenting. Being effective at facilitating collaborative problem-solving and teamwork helps the people you lead trust you to use power wisely.
7. Growth-Oriented Accountability Power: Most of us men have been taught to confuse coercion, shaming, and other forms of punishment, with authentic accountability. These accountability distortions cause people we lead to resent us, disengage from productivity, resent, seek revenge, or leave. Very few people understand that growth-oriented accountability is taking responsibility for the impacts that the choices we make have on those to whom we’ve made commitments. Mature accountability helps people grow while elevating excellence. It requires setting standards, upleveling procedures, and ensuring alignment between intentions & actions. There are five interconnected and eminently practical growth-oriented procedures and most male leaders have never been exposed to them, let alone helped to master facilitating and teaching them. Growth-oriented accountability makes power productive and nourishing.

In summary:

1. The big key to mature masculine leadership is resetting our relationship with power.
2. Doing this requires letting go of popular distortions about power, upleveling how we embody and express our 5 core powers, using those to ensure our own wellbeing and our capacity to love well, and mastering the 7 Key Habits of Healthy Masculine Leadership.
3. All of these dimensions are missing from most masculine leadership training and mentoring resources.
4. Power and impact, together with self-responsibility, collaboration, accountability, and integrity, create male leadership magic. Power and impact without self-responsibility, collaboration, accountability, and integrity, create male leadership damage.

All of this, and much more, await you in the Transcendent Male Leadership Resource.